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Because HAPPINESS is misused. My theory is that Happiness is NOT the POINT of Life; rather, it is a POINTER IN LIFE. And when it comes to making changes, that's what I specialise in at abetterlife-uk.com and http://hertscollegeofhypnosisandnlp.co.uk

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Friday, September 29, 2017

Happiness makes flu jabs work better - research

New research by a team at the University of Nottingham has found evidence that being in a positive mood on the day of your flu jab can increase its protective effect.


Monday, September 18, 2017


Here's my beef - that happiness and happy lives are not necessarily the same thing at all. And more importantly, I have the idea that Happiness is not something you should pursue in any case. Shocking? I'll explain.
You see, researchers use the notion of 'Subjective Well-Being' or SWB to measure happiness in their surveys. They ask questions like, How happy have you felt over the last month?  and How satisfied are you with your life?  You might give two very different answers to each of these questions. Others may not. It depends in part on what you think they mean. Others have made this point too.
Recent research has also pointed out that Happiness and Meaningfulness are not the same thing.. which is kind of along the same lines. But I think there is a more fundamental problem. We have got the whole idea of happiness messed up. (The full paper is here).

Here's my BIG IDEA: WHAT IF EVERYTHING THAT YOU THOUGHT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY WERE TOTALLY WRONG? Unlikely? Not so; in fact, it's very probable....

Professor of psychology at Harvard, Daniel Gilbert wrote in his book Stumbling on Happiness that the single biggest obstacle to our happiness is our natural inability to think accurately about the future. 
Gilbert goes as far as to accuse our brains of being “talented forgers”, fabricating a convincing living story made up of nothing but memories and distorted perceptions. Happiness is, by far, an “inside job.”  I agree.
BUT there’s worse to come. And this comes from my own experience of some twenty years working with people to solve a myriad of life problems, and it’s this: HAPPINESS is JUST AN EMOTION – a FEELING.  And FEELINGS are meant to be learnt from. They are the mind/body’s natural feedback signal – just kike pain teaches you not to stick your finger in the fire. 
My idea is that Happiness says YOU ENJOYED THAT - something resonated with you. AND HAPPINESS ASKS - WHAT WAS IT ABOUT THIS THAT MAKES IT SO GOOD? LEARN from it; what is it teaching you about what matters in life to you? Where is it telling you to head - the direction for more of what this was really about?
The bottom line: happiness is NOT the POINT of Life; rather, it is a POINTER IN LIFE. Sign up to my blog and get four free articles introducing my ideas on happiness; the Physics of Happiness. 

Wednesday, March 16, 2016

British teenagers among least satisfied in western world

Happiness matters...

Article in the Guardian 15 March:http://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/mar/15/british-teenagers-among-least-satisfied-in-western-world?CMP=share_btn_fb 

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Left-Right Brain Myths and Perspectives

Left-Right Brain Myths and Perspectives
This is not brand new, but it will be new to most people. Very entertaining as well as thought-provoking.

Friday, January 22, 2016

Happiness is your BIGGEST PROBLEM

Happiness points to the MOTHER OF ALL PROBLEMS.. and the only one you really have. How to find it. 

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Happiness? What is it really?

Everyone seems to have a view on what happiness is. The best minds have pondered its true nature for some thousands of years. Happiness is no laughing matter. And what about other emotions? The so-called "negative" emotions? Are they to be shunned as the black sheep of the fold of emotions? I believe they are valuable as happiness, and all are there to guide us.

I have reviewed the matter from many angles - spirituality, mysticism, psychology, cosmology, neurobiology, religion, modern and ancient philosophy... and took the view that they all had something important to say. This short clip picks out one feature of my conclusions.

Friday, October 9, 2015

Sometimes Happiness is just enjoying the silliness

Jurgen Klopp new Liverpool FC manager - "the Normal One" haha



If you don't know why this should be funny

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Happiness What is it? Does it matter? How to achieve it

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