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Because wherever you are, you can have more happiness and for more of the time than you ever imagined. 'Do more of what you like, and less of what you don't!' (c) Richard Walker, 2009. And because happiness is often misunderstood. "Do you live to work, or do you work to live?" I reckon happy people do both at the same time. Make the decision now to tenaciously seek out what feels good – and find ways of doing more of it - rather than settle for “not bad.” There's a big difference. And when it comes to making changes, that's what I specialise in at abetterlife-uk.com and http://hertscollegeofhypnosisandnlp.co.uk

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Monday, January 5, 2015

Festive Jet-Lag? How to survive back at work

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at FreeDigitalPhotos.net
What are the odds that you'll wake up every morning this week, open one eye and think: ‘Why on earth is my alarm going off in the middle of the night?’ asks Claire Cohen in her amusing article.
Yes, the Christmas break really was just a break. It’s over. No more duvet days in your PJs, watching
 old films and eating leftovers for breakfast (or is that just me?) And while you thought only hedgehogs and bears hibernated, you discovered even humans can get into it. 
image courtesy of Stuart Miles
at 
FreeDigitalPhotos.net

It can strike even the most enthusiastic amongst you. And summer holidays seem a long way off. And then comes all the slimming and get fit adverts, just to remind you how far you’ve slipped. And just what was that urgent project just before Christmas? It's no use hiding; so how can you get back into the groove?

Well, the first step is to recognize what you are dealing with. Claire reminds us that research confirms that you are not alone; negative emotions associated with the end of the festive period, with two weeks of irregular sleep and eating patterns (fancy a ginger wine with your breakfast sausage roll anyone?) are normal.

Getting back to the old routine of early nights and waking up in the dark can feel pretty much like jet-lag (it’s been called ‘social jet lag’). Articles have gone viral over the last few days, and all quote researcher Victoria Revell, who is actually a an advisor to a light-box manufacture. Hmm. (For those who care about these things, the original work so far as I can trace it, was by Wittman et al., and one of the authors wrote a book on the topic. Anyhow, symptoms can include: feeling sluggish, struggling to sleep, indigestion, loss of appetite, difficulty concentrating, memory problems, clumsiness, lack of energy and general fatigue.
Of course, just as with proper jetlag the advice is to adjust to the patterns of your destination, then you should have stuck your normal waking hours over Christmas. Ahh, the wisdom of hindsight. The hindsight many of us are experiencing is that of a far lardier backside than before the break.
 And the road to ruin is paved with good intentions, as we know.
Step two: be aware that there will be your ups and your downs over the first few days back – some of your strengths, and some of your weaknesses will show up (probably at the wrong moments, unfortunately). Start gently, by all means – unless you’re the kind of person who hits the ground running and is in the work gym by 6 am on day one - but don’t use the period post- festive break as an excuse to slouch. It won’t go down well. Instead, be targeted with your limited energy.
First off will be to tackle the mountain of belated email that will wash into your inbox. Schedule extra time for this. It will help you towards a “cleared decks” feeling, ready for the the next step, which is to prepare for the week ahead. 
CEO of Mediacom, Karen Blacket, says she gets into the right frame of mind for the first Monday after the festive period by: “Going through my diary for the day ahead the night before and trying to go to sleep at a decent hour. Starting the day with a green juice (yes, ..the detox kick), getting into the office an hour before normal and then blocking out an hour in my diary during the day for emails and internal catch ups.”
“I also drink lots of green tea and use an aromatherapy oil roll on my pressure points when I start to lag”. Well, I can’t vouch for the latter, but let me know if it works for you.
 

Founder of networking company Citymothers, Louisa Symington-Mills concurs that at least gentle preparation the night before to ameliorate the pain out of going back to work after the break. She also advises to avoid the drama chat and new years resolution brigade and “Focus on the year and opportunities ahead, and remind yourself why you enjoy your job (and if you really can’t remember, perhaps now’s the time to look for another).”
image courtesy of Stuart Miles
at 
FreeDigitalPhotos.net
And there’s a good point, which many will be thinking about for the New Year – how do you want this year to look? The same as last year? Whether you look for a new role, or take up a hobby – it’s a good idea to think about something new as you head back to the office. You’ve just had a glimpse into a world where work doesn’t actually define your life. Are you going to forget about your quality of life? Or will you to capitalise on this and plan some new activities, or learning new skills?

Telegraph columnist Josephine Fairley likes to set herself a new goal each year. 
 “I certainly think stretching yourself mentally is vital, if we are to keep feeling alive and alert. But personal goals don’t have to be overly ambitious. The key is to be realistic.” I agree; my happiness strap line is “do more of what you like, and less of what you don’t”.

What will you do? You can channel all your energy into presenting some new idea to your boss or channel it into something extra-curricular that will boost your overall productivity, and happiness. 


What will you do? You can channel all your energy into presenting some new idea to your boss or channel it into something extra-curricular that will boost your overall productivity, and happiness.

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Well, here’s my contribution to your New You
As Einstein famously said, you won’t make any significant change without changing your thinking.  “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” In other words, if you really want to stretch your mental muscles, and raise your game, you need to learn to actually think differently. More facts and more research will not hit the spot. You will just have a lot of information. Change requires mental gymnastics. And that’s where NLP and Hypnosis are in their zone. Don’t be fooled by thinking it’s all about some mystical hypnotic state; hypnotic language patterns and creating effective mental imagery are the real tools of change, and form the core of hypnosis and NLP. It’s about discovering how your brain really works, then learning to reprogramme it in its own language. Special New Year Deals till 15th Jan. Don't miss out - numbers also limited. 

Friday, January 2, 2015

Save your Happiness for laters too!

This is from my friend Glen Cooper, of "Happijar"
HappiJar is all about saving smiles for rainy days when we need them the most.

My name is Glen Cooper and this 'appi' journey has been an important part of my life for almost 2 years now. Imagine owning a jar where yours, and your families and friends extra special happy moments are saved. Then shaking a random one free when you need a happiness buzz...all from your mobile phone.
http://www.happijar.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/iPhone-image.png

I embarked upon designing this happy little app when I found that hunting through all my social streams, photo albums, text messages and voice messages for those nuggets of happiness proved almost impossible... I was being given gifts of positivity and wisdom from my family and friends which was then getting buried under tonnes of other throw away updates and messages... this had to change.

I designed HappiJar to be our oasis of special moments.. easily accessible and share-able. By signing up to this list, you will help us raise awareness for the app plus the #HappinessApps Challenge we have entered. 2015 is going to big for us and you can join us on this epic adventure... please help me to spread the word. 

Have a Happy Break!!

Happiness and Gratitude
Glen


https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/20525-vote-for-happiness